Bereavement and Loss stages

Bereavement and Loss stages

Grief can be a result of losing a loved one but can also be for losing some other part of your life. This might be a physical such as loss of a limb or after a stroke. Or it might be a life loss such as divorce. The effect on you may be similar whatever the cause. Kubler-Ross postulated there were stages that a person might experience after loss. Not everyone may go through this but it can help to consider these stages. It may help you move towards acceptance of what has happened.

resources

Kübler-Ross E, Kessler D (2014). On grief & grieving : finding the meaning of grief through the five stages of loss. New York: Scribner. ISBN 9781476775555.

Denial

This cannot be true. It cannot happen to me so there must be an error or alternative explanation

Anger

Why has it happened to me? It is not fair. Who do I blame?

Bargaining

If I do this will it be OK? This might be exercise, change of lifestyle, or a plea

Depression

Why bother? What is it all for? Not point, just give up and hide away.

Acceptance

It is going to happen and is inevitable. I am ready and prepared